Naija Guluma

1. Stop Telling Everyone Your Plans . Not everyone who listens wants the best for you. Some people are indifferent, while others quietly hope you’ll fail. Sharing too much too soon can expose you to unnecessary judgment, envy, or sabotage. Protect your dreams by nurturing them in silence and letting your results speak for themselves. 2. Choose Your Friends With Intention . You are the average of the people you spend the most time with. Surrounding yourself with driven, honest, and growth-oriented individuals will elevate your mindset, habits, and opportunities. The right circle will challenge you, support you, and help you evolve. Choose wisely—your future depends on it. 3. Expect Nothing. Appreciate Everything . Letting go of entitlement frees you from disappointment. When you stop expecting things from others or from life itself, you begin to see the value in simple moments. Gratitude for what you already have creates peace, contentment, and the foundation for more meaningful happine...

Rebirth, also known as reincarnation, is a concept that exists in many cultures and religions.  Two important concepts that need to be understood in relation to the concept of reincarnation are death and immortality.  The idea is that when a person dies, their soul is reborn into a new body, either immediately or after a period of time. The human phenomenon that gives rise to the concept of immortality is death. Whereas, an understanding of immortality is fundamental to an understanding of reincarnation.   Death is the irreversible cessation of life.  As an inevitable characteristic of all living things, the fear of death is a universal and natural sentiment. Death customs and rites are observed by people of all cultures. These are in forms of burial and mourning customs’ which are means of helping individuals cope with this fear. The cultural belief about burial and mourning varies from one culture to another. Generally, it includes a means to dispose th...

In moments of conflict, tension runs high; we say things we don't mean and act in ways that escalate the conflict without necessarily meaning to. In trying to get our point across and be heard, we often miss out on something crucial - that's what the other person wants too. They want to be heard, understood and validated. They want to know that their emotions matter and that their perspective is respected, if not agreed with. In my research, I found out that Frontiers in Psychology examined how one can bring about such "extrinsic emotional regulation"- managing and regulating the emotions of others in a conflict. In addition to keeping your own temper and emotional reactivity in check, doing this can quickly de-escalate and leave your relationship in a much better place than before.  I found out that the key to this lies in "empathic paraphrasing." This is a communication technique where the listener restates what the speaker has said in their ow...

Defining a “good woman” is no easy task, and it’s certainly not a one-size-fits-all description. Thankfully, psychology has chipped in with some insights. It’s not about being perfect or fitting into a stereotypical mold. Instead, it’s about embodying certain key qualities that make a woman genuinely good, from her core outwards. Let’s dive in. 1) Empathy One of the most widely recognized qualities of a truly good woman, according to psychology, is empathy. Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It’s not just about being kind and sympathetic; it’s actually about being able to put oneself in another person’s shoes. This trait goes beyond just being polite or considerate. It involves truly understanding the emotions and experiences of others, even when they are significantly different from our own. Psychologists note that empathy is a crucial component of emotional intelligence, and women who embody this quality are often seen as genuinely good. They have ...

 Many Couples question whether they should move in together before getting married. here I have three pros of doing it. 1. Sharing Finances - Most couples keep personal items and clothes at each other's places anyways, so you may as well pay the one set of bills. Sharing finances also enables you to save some extra money for your future together. 2. You Build Stronger Bond Living Together - Living together before marriage is a great test to see if you can sustain the relationship for the long term. The struggles of living with someone new will also make the relationship with your partner stronger. 3. Less Stress When You Get Married - Living with anyone new can be stressful, but finding out your  partner's bad habits after marriage is more stressful. moving in before marriage will allow for an easier and less stressful transition into married life. Before taking the leap of moving in with someone, make sure you're absolutely sure they're the right partner for you. Livin...

 Are you on the hunt for that perfect fragrance that complements your style and personality? Choosing the right perfume can be a delightful experience, but with so many options available, it can also be a bit overwhelming. Fear not, as I've compiled some essential tips to help you navigate the world of perfumes and find the scent that suits you best. 1. Understand the Types of Perfumes: Perfumes come in various forms, including Eau de Parfum, Eau de Toilette, and Eau de Cologne. Understanding the differences can guide your decision-making process. For example, Eau de Parfum is more concentrated and long-lasting compared to Eau de Toilette, which is lighter and ideal for everyday wear. 2. Identify Your Fragrance Family: Perfumes are categorized into fragrance families such as floral, oriental, woody, and fresh. Determine which family appeals to you the most based on your preferences. If you enjoy floral scents reminiscent of flowers like roses or jasmine, opt for perfumes from the f...